One way or the other...

Sometimes, people say what they don't mean. Sometimes, too, they mean what they say, but they don't mean to say it in the way that they say it. Other people then respond badly. Then they say something that they don't really mean or, at least, they say it in a way that they don't mean to say it. The upshot of all this is a whole load of Grade A, export-quality confusion, woven with anger and wrapped in resentment.